Changing Lives, One Child at a Time: How to Become a Good Foster Parent

To become a foster parent or an adoptive parent, you must first understand the process of becoming approved and how it works in your state.

Learn about foster care and adoption.

how to become a good foster parent

Foster care and adoption are two different things. Fostering a child is a temporary solution to the problem of an unsafe environment, while adopting is permanent. Many people who foster children eventually decide to adopt them permanently because they have formed strong bonds with their foster family members. However, this does not mean that all foster parents become adoptive parents; some choose not to adopt even though they have cared for children for many years.

Adoption can be expensive and time-consuming, so it’s important that you understand what it means before applying for approval as either a potential parent or provider of services (the role played by your agency).

Identify your needs, wants and priorities.

Once you have identified your needs, wants and priorities, think about how they may change over time. For example:

  • What do I need right now?
  • How will my needs change as the child grows up?
  • What do I want to provide for my family in terms of housing and transportation?
  • How can I make sure that these things are affordable for us if our income changes or we move into another stage of life (e.g., from single parent with one child to married couple with two children)?

Completing an application

how to become a good foster parent

To be considered for foster care or adoption, you must complete an application and provide the following information:

  • Your name, address and phone number (if available)
  • Your relationship to the child(ren) in question (e.g., grandparent, aunt/uncle)
  • Your date of birth and Social Security Number(s) if applicable. If you are married, both partners must provide their names on separate forms; if you have been previously married or divorced please include this information in your application as well; please note that anyone who has been convicted of a felony cannot legally adopt until after five years from their release date from prison or parole unless an exception has been made.

Meeting the licensing requirements to become a foster parent

The first step to becoming a foster or adoptive parent is meeting the licensing requirements for your age, marital status, income and location. This includes:

  • Proof of meeting the minimum age requirement in your state.
  • Verification of income to meet your expenses (you must have at least $2,000 per month after taxes).
  • Location: You must live in a home that meets the state’s standards for foster care homes or adoptive homes; this may include having an extra bedroom for children who are placed with you temporarily until they can be reunited with their families or adopted into new ones.

You’ll also need letters of reference from your employer and those who know you well–such as neighbors or relatives–as well as any other personal references requested by your social worker during the application process.

Meet the training requirements to become a foster parent or adoptive parent

how to become a good foster parent

You will need to meet the training requirements for foster parents or adoptive parents in your state. These requirements vary by age of child and family situation, but most states require some form of training. Some states even require specific courses be taken before you can apply for certification as a foster or adoptive parent.

Complete a home study: All adoptive families, and some foster families, must complete a home study. A home study is an assessment of your ability to provide safe care for children who have been removed from their homes because of abuse or neglect; usually this involves an interview with social workers from both private agencies (who often charge more) and government agencies such as Child Welfare Services (CWS).

You must understand the process of becoming approved and how it works in your state to become a foster parent

When you decide to become a foster parent or adopt, you must understand the process of becoming approved and how it works in your state in this case Texas. Foster care and adoption are two different things. Foster care is a temporary situation, while adoption is permanent–and there are some differences between them as well. For example:

  • Foster parents receive a stipend or reimbursement for the care of children placed in their homes; adoptive parents usually receive an allowance from the government for each child they take into their home (or sometimes just one time).
  • As mentioned previously many states require training courses before you can become licensed as a foster parent or adoptive parent. The courses may include information about what kinds of behaviors are appropriate with children (e.g.., encouraging independence) as well as any laws related specifically to your role within the field such as confidentiality agreements that may be required by law enforcement officers working on cases involving minors under 18 years old who may have been found guilty of committing crimes against another person(s).

How to Become A Good Foster Parent Conclusion

how to become a good foster parent

The process of becoming approved to foster or adopt can be complicated, but it’s well worth the effort. If you’re ready to make a difference in a child’s life and want to learn more about this rewarding career path, contact Therapeutic Family Life for more information on how you can become part of their team!

About This Author

Melissa Rodriguez
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Melissa Rodriguez holds a Bachelor of Science in Psychology from Texas State University and has over 20 years of experience in childcare services and administration. She is a Licensed Child Placing Agency Administrator, responsible for overseeing day-to-day operations and ensuring agency compliance with policies, procedures, and contract requirements, in conjunction with the Executive Director and Executive Administrator.